As an audiologist, I have opportunity to meet folks from young to old, from all walks of life with disorders and differences. Really, it could be anyone that walks in my door. What I know as a strength and what is rewarding is reaching the otherwise unreachable connecting with people that might be difficult to connect with, having relationships with those that seem to be impossible to relate to. It is not because I feel I have something to offer them but it is because I know they have something to offer me.
The other day I was tasked with testing a 14 year old girl with cerebral palsy. This girl was sent to me to do audiometric brain stem response evaluation (this is an objective neurologically evoked response that allows hearing threshold testing in infants and the difficult to test). The reason for the referral from another clinic was that they could not get results with traditional evaluation. This young woman was accompanied by her mother at the time of evaluation. From the moment this young lady arrived in my office, it was obvious that her ability to communicate with language was quite impaired, most of her vocalizations were sounds without apparent distinguishable content. Even with the absence of understandable vocalization, it was soon realized that we could communicate. I ended up having a conversation with this child that we both understood. As we started to understand each other, I understood with certainty that I could indeed do subjective testing and that this girl knew exactly what I required of her in order to accomplish this task. We ended up getting results that others had failed to get in her 14 years of life because we were able to communicate and understand each other because we had developed a relationship. There is a very strong clinical implication in this story as to the importance of connecting with and understanding each patient that walks in my door but there is a much stronger implication that I would like to share.
During our visit together I was profoundly impacted by the strength of this child's personality and how she made me feel. I am not talking about how it made me feel dealing with the sadness of a handicapped child but I am talking about the nonverbal communication of joy and happiness. Sometimes we see what we want to see in life and transfer feelings from within but this was different. This young woman had such a beautiful, magnetic personality with strenght and joy that could not be misunderstood. While her body limited her ability to communicate physically, she had learned to communicate with subtleties that were now very powerful. I went in to my office overcome with emotion having come to conclude that I was the one who had gained much from this encounter, that I was the one that had been given a gift that day.
How much more of a responsibility do those of us have to make others feel with our words and our actions. We that are fortunate enough to have been born without handicap have an even greater set of tools with which to engage those around us. It is so difficult to put into words the effect of that particular encounter on my life but it is definitely indelible and unforgettable and undeniable. I could not help but be drawn in by this child, it was she who connected with me not the other way around.
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